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Emotional intelligence, the soft skill that gives you a breakthrough


Do you want to be happy? Then let us start by checking your emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ). According to Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize our own feelings and those of others. It guides us to better manage our relationships. It is mainly useful in understanding our own emotions as they are the physical expression of what is weighing on our mind.

5 traits of emotional intelligence
  1. Self-Awareness. Being aware of how you are feeling at every moment. In addition, you are conscious about the way you engage with the people around you.  As a result, you make better decisions whatever the situation might be.
  2. Self-Regulation. The ability to handle your emotions and not get carried away. By practicing self-regulation, individuals can be calmer and deliberate in their actions.
  3. One is driven to excel in everything they do, and they always find more room to improve. When motivated you are challenged to striving to be a better you.
  4. This is the ability to understand the predicament of others and show compassion during their difficulties. You not only show sympathy but are able to walk in their shoes.
  5. Social Skills. The ability to communicate effectively with the people around them. For example, collaborating well with peers in group tasks or to exert influence on the thoughts and actions of others as a leader.
How is emotional intelligence affecting your livelihood?
  1. Your physical health. If you are unable to manage your emotions, you are probably not managing your stress either. According to medical experts uncontrolled stress raises blood pressure, suppresses the immune system, increases the risk of heart attacks and other illnesses.
  2. Your mental health. Uncontrolled emotions and stress can also impact your mental health, making you vulnerable to anxiety and depression.
  3. Your relationships. When you understand your emotions and how to control them, you are better able to express how you feel and understand how others are feeling. As a result,you communicate more effectively and forge stronger relationships, both at work and in your personal life.
  4. Your social intelligence. Being in tune with your emotions serves a social purpose, connecting you to other people and the world around you. For example, it allows you to recognize a friend from a foe.

Even as we appreciate the power of emotional quotient, we need to recall that it is a lifetime process. Start with the basics like observing how you feel and behave, practicing how to respond instead of reacting, empathizing with yourself and creating a positive environment by building on others. By doing so you connect with your feelings, turn your intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.


This article was written by  Annete Karanja. 


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